It is love from the heart that unites family and keeps a strong faith. When times are tough it is easy to fall into the “life is greener on the other side of the fence” mentality. So often this leads to tragic mistakes and regrets that can change our lives forever. We find that our problems often follow us to the other side of the fence. Or worse, new and even more challenging problems begin to sprout. It turns out that happiness and satisfaction doesn’t come from being on one side of the fence or the other, it comes from within. Somehow, I have learned that when things take a turn for the worse you must focus and keep on going. The trials that we go through have a purpose. There are reasons that we may not understand right now, but they eventually turn out to serve us in some way.
I once had an experience way back when I was very young and innocent. A person whom I thought was my best of friends and my family betrayed me. Then at the end his wife mocked and said the most dehumanizing words against me. I am not sure if was due to her insecurities, but she was very cruel. Being raised in the convent with lack of experience and not enough understanding of human behavior, I felt self-pity. When I would remember those moments I would cry until I couldn’t cry anymore. As an orphan with no parents or family to lean on I felt alone in my suffering. The experience was devastating for me and I dwelt on that for a long time.
One day, I told myself that I would pick up the pieces left in my life. I focused on finishing my studies and passing my nursing board exam. Despite the pain and destruction of the past I found a decent high paying job overseas just four months after graduation. The sad memories of the past continued to haunt me though. One Sunday, I bowed and knelt in humbleness asking the Almighty God for guidance because I was very emotionally weary. I submitted myself to whatever purpose God wanted for me. While in tears praying, I heard an inner voice urging me to forget and forgive. After that I stood up enlightened! Instead of revenge, I helped his family and forgave them for what they did to me. In doing so, my actions were entirely misunderstood and my generosity was also taken advantage of. I stayed in faith and did everything sincerely from my heart no matter what. I had faith God’s justice.
I came to the conclusion that the challenges and bitter moments in life were there to mold me to be stronger, wiser and more equipped for the challenges to come. That betrayal was the key to my ultimate success. The pain and sorrow from the experience hardened my will and strengthened my soul. As time goes by, I realize now that it happened for a purpose so I could learn an important lesson. God loved me indeed. He is my savior and best friend when no one is around for comfort in the darkest moments of my life. As I reflect, those people that caused my suffering played an important role so I could move forward and claim the blessings in store for me. We are destined for a greater life; we just need to embrace the trials along the way.
Sixteen years later, I came stumbled across those people again. Without any hesitation I sent them a short note expressing my greatest gratitude for doing me a great favor. They might not have understood what I meant or perhaps would take it as an insult, but in my heart my intentions were sincere. I am grateful indeed. My enemy became my stepping stone.
It’s hard to understand the situation when you are in it, but when you step back you will come to realize that we must shake off the self-pity and the disappointments of each day. Understand that everything happens to our advantage. We have freedom to make our decisions in life, including how we choose to experience these events and what they mean to us. When things go wrong it doesn’t mean the end of hope. Stay in faith. Trust that a greater favor awaits those who do things from the heart. You and I are instruments toward someone’s fulfillment of their dreams and serve a greater purpose to one and all.