As a mother of a single child, I tend to be very over protective. This summer, prior to my daughter’s second grade we decided to go on a vacation. While packing our suitcases my little child wanted to help. Of course, by “help” I mean dance, and bounce here and there, hopping around with her tongue sticking out. However the room was very crowded with suitcases and things to be packed, so I told her to stay seated for a little bit so she wouldn’t get hurt.
When I turned my back she promptly resumed hopping. When I returned to the room after two minutes she reported that her left big toe was wounded and bleeding. She accidentally hit the suitcase. It was a small scrape but I was very upset because our upcoming trip involved a lot of walking, I was thinking that she would not be able to enjoy it because of the wounded toe. I scolded her and she cried. I made her aware that a mistake is a responsibility.
If her toe would hurt the entire vacation she would need to be responsible for the consequences and accept the pain as the result of her mistake. I cleaned and applied triple antibiotics on the wound and told her that I can only do so much to protect her, but she need to realize that whatever pain she may feel due to her decisions is hers to take and accept.
It might be too early for my little child to understand the rationale of everything, but I feel that helping her understand cause and effect now will have an impact as she travels along her journey of life. I will not be here for eternity, but she will forever remember that everything I do, and that I do it for love and for her future wellbeing.
The experience made me stop and think about what is really important in life. My little child has a wound, but we have this exciting vacation ahead of us. We should go on and enjoy the vacation and quality time together as a family, live this moment and not worry about the next day. We will take care of the future when it arrives.
They say it takes a minute to make a mistake and it can take a lifetime to regret or forget it. People and circumstances can take away our material possessions, they can take away our money, and they can take away our health. Yet, no one can ever take away our cherished memories.
We must remember to make time for creating moments to remember every day and take responsibility for our mistakes. Blaming others or complaining about how miserable things are only creates more misery and spreads it around. Instead, make a choice to carry on and move forward in happiness despite the pain of the day.